Joan Smalls and Sam Riley via “Dazed and Confused” magazine photoshoot.
“It feels natural.”
That is the only answer I can give as to why I write romance novels focused on black women in relationships with white men, Asian men, or Latino men. Or if people ask me about why I date them in my personal life. I blogged from 2009 to early 2013 to help reshape the image of the kind of man a typical black woman is attracted to and coined “declare your preference” to empower like-minded black women to love without caring about other people’s opinions.
“It just feels natural.”
My first two childhood crushes were my neighbours. The blonde polish boy who had a bright smile for me when I watched him play basketball from my yard and on the other side the Pakistani boy with the bright smile as he played with his younger siblings. So I liked guys who smile a lot (still do). Race and religion has nothing to do with it.
I always wrote stories that reflected my own preference but I learned through blogging that not all black women lived as I did—as if dating interracial was natural. But from 2009 onward everyone was already travelling to 2013 and where we are now with the openness of talking about interracial dating.
Though it feels natural to me to date interracially I don’t write romances in imaginary worlds without racism. My favourite actress Kerry Washington put it perfectly in an interview,
“I’m not interested in living in a Post-Racial world, I am however interested in living in a Post-Racist World.”
The kinds of stories I am interested in are built around black women who know and feel comfortable in themselves enough to love whoever they want. In a successful couple being a different race or culture isn’t their problem or main day to day issue.
Loving a person who makes you sees all of your truth and harsh edges and yet still makes you feel wonderful is natural.
If differences in race is the world’s main issue when they see a mixed couple together then they can refer to the Loving v. Virginia ruling against anti-miscegenation laws. Marrying interracially is made legally natural so tell them to deal with it.
Share your story to win a prize: “Why do you date interracially or why you enjoy IR books?”
Grand prize: Wins a 30 minute Skype call with me to talk about writing, editing, ebooks, interracial dating tips, natural hair (LOL!) anything you are wondering about (within reason).
Five runner ups: Win a signed cover of “Just as Good” my latest book release for some sexy Christmas in June.
The contest ends tonight at midnight and I will be choosing the winners on Thursday morning EST time. Check back to this page to see the results.
Happy Loving Day!
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